I used to know a woman who was obsessed with a lead singer in a very famous rock-n-roll band. She was married, and had been for 20+ years, had two children, and was very stable. She had been obsessed with this rock star ever since she was married, though, and swore he felt the same way for her.

Of course, she didn’t call it obsessed. She called it “True Love.”

They had met several times, and she said she felt a connection. She explained she was an Aquarius and he was a Libra so they had the 5-9 sun-sign pattern in their favor. For those not interested in astrology, that just basically means that those signs are best suited astrologically. I used to buy into all that surface junk, but when I really started to learn about all the different facets of a birth chart and that sun-signs are really very general, I stopped putting that much stock into books like “Love Signs” by Linda Goodman, and started looking at them as strictly entertainment. A lot of people take it very seriously, though, like my friend who I’ve mentioned.

When I’ve fallen in love, each time had one thing in common. I lost total control of my desire to keep up a front; I let my guard down totally. I become completely selfless and want to make that person happy at all costs.

I stay in touch with reality, now that I’m a little older, but the power of that “in love” feeling never fails to take me over completely. I try so hard not to get my heart broken, but I really believe that in order to receive the love I long for, I must be able to give it all to the person I choose, and in the end, if it doesn’t work out, at least I know it wasn’t because I held back. Love means to hold nothing back.

I never regret in love. Anything I’ve ever done for someone I’ve been in love with is something I look back on with rose-colored lenses. I have made some very foolish mistakes in the name of love, but regret? No. Why? Because I remember the feeling that caused me to act that way, and that feeling is the most beautiful gift anyone could ever receive.

When you have been heartbroken so many times, it’s hard to let yourself be vulnerable to another person. Sometimes, people become bitter and angry without even realizing why. To open your heart up to another person and give them the power to hurt you is terrifying to someone who has been through something horrible like the death of a partner, a divorce, or maybe something totally different. The fear of experiencing heartbreak again can sometimes prevent someone from ever loving another person. In turn, they never truly love themselves.

I long for that “in love” feeling with my partner. When I feel that for someone, I follow it until I can’t anymore. Doesn’t everyone want to feel that way? When you feel that for another person, don’t you feel beautiful, too?

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Does Love mean to accept someone else regardless of whether or not you agree with them?

In my opinion, if you disagree with someone on a regular basis, then you shouldn’t be together.

True, everyone is different, and no one should conform to another person just for the sake of getting along.

What if you don’t have any common interests with your partner, though? Are they still your partner if that is the case? What do you have in common?

Sex?

If you are in a relationship where you find yourself looking for common ground more than just being yourself and enjoying your time together, it might be time to start looking in another direction.

Why do couples stay together if they do not have anything in common? Why do they stay married or if they are not yet married, why do they feel the need to get married if in their hearts they know for certain that it’s just to make sure they are not alone?

Is the need to have someone there to hold your hand greater than the need for happiness?

Does having someone there to hold your hand give you greater happiness than being in love?

These are questions I’ve been thinking of answers to for quite some time. I don’t want to get married just for the sake of making sure I’m not alone. I want to get married for love, pure and simple. Sure, there are other deciding factors like credit, finances, family situations and stability. Also, it’s important to know whether or not you are dating a felon. At least, that matters to most people.

If you are with someone because you truly love them, usually you can look past any flaws they have, so long as they make things right with you and your relationship. If someone is $10,000 in debt but always makes sure to rub your feet every night before you go to bed, and takes you out to dinner every year on your anniversary, and tells you that you are the best thing that has ever happened to them…does the $10k really matter?

Does it?

Some people are obsessed with finding the “perfect” mate. I will admit, I am looking for my “perfect” mate.

What is your definition of perfect, though?

Does your mate have to have perfect credit?

A perfect smile?

Perfect abs?

What is it that your mate has to have in order to make you happy?

What do YOU look for?

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I am me; I am you; I am refreshed and reborn…

I am a dreamer; I am a cynic; I am evolving and enigmatic…

I am woman; I am man; I am whatever you want me to be.

I am yours.

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