Do you ever wonder if you will meet “The One?” Have you met yours already? How do you know? With so many people who come and go in a lifetime, and with the three major, long-term relationships I’ve had in my life, I wonder, how do you really know when you meet “The One?” Each time I fell in love, I thought it was “The One.”
I used to know a woman who was obsessed with a lead singer in a very famous rock-n-roll band. She was married, and had been for 20+ years, had two children, and was very stable. She had been obsessed with this rock star ever since she was married, though, and swore he felt the same way for her.
Of course, she didn’t call it obsessed. She called it “True Love.”
They had met several times, and she said she felt a connection. She explained she was an Aquarius and he was a Libra so they had the 5-9 sun-sign pattern in their favor. For those not interested in astrology, that just basically means that those signs are best suited astrologically. I used to buy into all that surface junk, but when I really started to learn about all the different facets of a birth chart and that sun-signs are really very general, I stopped putting that much stock into books like “Love Signs” by Linda Goodman, and started looking at them as strictly entertainment. A lot of people take it very seriously, though, like my friend who I’ve mentioned.
When I’ve fallen in love, each time had one thing in common. I lost total control of my desire to keep up a front; I let my guard down totally. I become completely selfless and want to make that person happy at all costs.
I stay in touch with reality, now that I’m a little older, but the power of that “in love” feeling never fails to take me over completely. I try so hard not to get my heart broken, but I really believe that in order to receive the love I long for, I must be able to give it all to the person I choose, and in the end, if it doesn’t work out, at least I know it wasn’t because I held back. Love means to hold nothing back.
I never regret in love. Anything I’ve ever done for someone I’ve been in love with is something I look back on with rose-colored lenses. I have made some very foolish mistakes in the name of love, but regret? No. Why? Because I remember the feeling that caused me to act that way, and that feeling is the most beautiful gift anyone could ever receive.
When you have been heartbroken so many times, it’s hard to let yourself be vulnerable to another person. Sometimes, people become bitter and angry without even realizing why. To open your heart up to another person and give them the power to hurt you is terrifying to someone who has been through something horrible like the death of a partner, a divorce, or maybe something totally different. The fear of experiencing heartbreak again can sometimes prevent someone from ever loving another person. In turn, they never truly love themselves.
I long for that “in love” feeling with my partner. When I feel that for someone, I follow it until I can’t anymore. Doesn’t everyone want to feel that way? When you feel that for another person, don’t you feel beautiful, too?
